Picture this: You are about to enter a meeting of the most senior executives in your company. You're going to propose a drastic reduction in the systems enhancement budget for each of their departments in order to fund some new development activity. You know they will hate this proposal. How will you handle the inevitable confrontations looming in front of you? I was faced with just this situation as the relatively new CIO in Xerox's U.S. Marketing Group in 1989. Later I'll share with you the strategy I chose and why it was successful in that situation. But first let's agree that confrontational situations make most of us uncomfortable, understand why confrontation is important in honing our leadership skills, and identify some strategies for successful confrontation and some things to avoid.

The CIO position, more than most others, is rife with confrontation. It is the hub of change in most companies. So it behooves the CIO who values his or her position to become an expert in the art of confrontation. Because even if you could avoid the confrontation, in my experience, this only leads to a situation even more intractable than the original one. I have often been asked what makes a successful CIO. I believe there are stages a CIO goes through in developing and gaining the credibility necessary to make an impact in a company. Conflict and confrontation and how you deal with them are at the core. This is my version of the life cycle of a CIO:

• Introduction. You are new to the senior executive team. They welcome you, hope you won't say anything technical and, if you do, that it will be understandable.
• Honeymoon. You make a few cogent, business-oriented remarks, have a few successes. She's OK!
• Crossroads. You encounter a difficult issue, which brings conflict to the forefront. This is the critical stage. You cannot pass this stage without working through the conflict, and confrontation may be necessary.
• Respect. If you reach this stage, you have achieved at least grudging respect from your peers and customers.
• Trust. Achieved only after several conflicts get resolved with consistent, predictable behavior on your part.
• Partnership. Now you can truly participate in shared objectives with other executives.
• Strategic Relationship. A state of maturity that recognizes and leverages the strategic role of technology in the business.

If you get stuck at the crossroads, you will probably join the ranks of the roving CIO⬠the one who has a new job every 18 to 24 months. You will continually cycle through the first three stages and never achieve the respect necessary to endure. Developing skills in dealing with confrontation and resolving conflict are vital to your leadership role. What can you do to be more successful in these difficult situations? While certainly not a formula, nor all-inclusive, the following principles have been helpful to me and some of my colleagues as we dealt with many of the same issues you are no doubt facing now.